We All Suck !!!

As people, we are not very good at changing ourselves. Even when we can spot the character flaws within us, we just are not very good at changing them.

The reason? We cannot change ourselves. We all have a sin nature at work within us. And, in our own strivings, no matter how hard we try to change, we cannot.

That is why we try so hard to change the symptoms of our problems, instead of changing the root problem.

Only God can touch us and change us deep within. We cannot do it ourselves. When we try, we fail, time and time again.

I should know. Two failed marriages, and a love-friendship failure, and I have come to the understanding that I cannot change who I am. But…God can.

How? By putting God first in our lives, by seeking His face, by making Him the number one priority, by seeking above all else to please Him. By spending quality time in His presence, by being real with Him, by studying His Word and what He says about us and to us, by allowing The Holy Spirit to pierce us with His Word and work within us to make us more Christ-like; that is the only way to change.

At some point (or points) in every believer’s lifetime, life crashes down around us. We are forced to admit that we are a failure, and that our way of doing things has failed us and oftentimes those around us that we care about, too. Most of us, when this occurs, do the natural human thing; we collapse, disengage, and ignore the problems, we blame others, and we refuse to change, because deep down where we cannot even admit it, we know that we cannot change ourselves. And we are too prideful to allow God His proper place in our lives, and so we go on and repeat our same mistakes, over and over and over again.

We enter new relationships, new jobs, we move, we give up on friendships, we do whatever is necessary to give ourselves a new chance to do things the right way – and then we eventually fail again.

We just do not get it. Our lives are NOT our own! We were meant to live to please God, to seek God, to spend time with God, to speak to God (much different that asking Him to give us what we want – we should be asking Him what HE wants of US) and to be spoken to by Him, to spend time in His Word; we were meant to be living ambassadors to the world of Who God is, by becoming more like Him.

But we don’t. We, instead, choose to live by this world’s system of doing things, never stopping to realize that if we follow the world’s way of doing things, then we are disobeying God and wandering off of His path for our lives.

The only way to lasting and abiding change, is to soak in God’s presence. To ALLOW God full access to our lives, to admit that He is in charge and that whatever He chooses to bring into our lives, whatever He chooses to do in our lives, wherever He calls us to go, whatever He calls us to say, whatever He calls us to do, that is our main duty to perform. That is how we please God, by obeying him. And how do we know what is pleasing to God? By spending time with Him, by studying His Word, by spending time in prayer and asking God to change us from within and to reveal to us where we need to make changes and then for Him to make those changes within us.

But we do not do that, do we? Instead, we try to change our own circumstances, rather than allowing God to change our wayward hearts. We try to change others around us, rather than allowing God to work within us. We struggle for control, and our struggle really is against God Himself! We insist on being in the driver’s seat in our lives, and think that God will honour that. Well, He doesn’t. He is a jealous God, and He will allow nothing in our lives to come before Him, not even our own selves.

Why do relationships fail? Isn’t it because we are not whole people; we are trying to get others to meet needs within us that are meant to be met by God Himself. We put God on the back-burner, and then wonder why nothing turns out right in our lives, and blame people and God. How stupid are we as human beings?!!

Relationships fail because God is love. All love apart from God is a farce, a scam, a sham, something that is destined to fail. Nobody can meet those needs we have, but God; eventually, that longing to have those needs met will surface. We will feel unloved, and unlovable. We will lash out at those around us for not meeting those needs. We will withdraw and refuse to try to meet the needs of others. We will feel sorry for ourselves.

And all this time, God is waiting with open arms, wanting to make us into something beautiful, if only we would let Him. He is the Lover Of Our Soul. He is the Great Romancer, and His Holy Word is all about the romantic love that He has for us. It should not be a power struggle between us and God, afraid to let Him have control of our lives and our destinies. So why is it that way? When will we learn?

God, do not let me do things my way; help me, and change me, to allow You to do things Your way in my life. Make my life pleasing to You.