Nice guys finish last.
There is much more fact than fiction to this.
Girls want danger and aggression from a guy. Those who do not fit that mold, they just end up being “just friends.” Girls like talking with guys who are nice and gentle and sweet and compassionate and caring, they like befriending them, but romance…not a chance.
Women chase after (or let themselves be chased after by) the other kind of guy…you know, the kind that thinks about himself first, the guy who can’t be faithful, who thinks he is God’s gift to women. They somehow expect that they can teach these guys to be monogamous, that they can teach these guys how to cuddle without expecting something from it, to be good providers and loving husbands and fathers.
More often that not, these women fail in that. What they end up with, is years and years devoted to somebody who never had their best interests at heart, who never respected them, who used them and then either ignored them or cheated on them.
Most men are pigs. And most women are horrible judges of character.
Makes you wonder how somebody can believe in true love, when they believe all of the above is true. Yet, I do.
Of course, that is because my whole life is about faith. I believe that there is a God Who loves me, even though I cannot see Him. I believe that Jesus rose from the dead, even though that seems impossible. I believe that I am forgiven, even though I sin daily. And, I believe in true love, even though I am 18 hours from being divorced for the second time in my life.
I will not change who I am, in order to impress a girl. I will not attempt to be a troglodyte Neanderthal, an uncaring woman-abuser, just so that my bad-boy image will attract a woman to me. No, I will stay who I am; a sweet, caring, quiet, spiritual man. I will stay who I am, because God loves me the way that I am right now, and so will my next wife. I will trust God to lead the right person to me, at the right time. And I CAN trust Him, because He is faithful and true.
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Monday, April 20, 2009
directional quote for my future
I'll wait
'Til your love comes down
I'm coming straight for your heart
No way
You can stop me now
As fine as you are
Van Halen, "I'll Wait"
'Til your love comes down
I'm coming straight for your heart
No way
You can stop me now
As fine as you are
Van Halen, "I'll Wait"
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Thoughts of beauty, in passing
Sometimes, love just isn’t enough to keep people together. There needs to be more; like-mindedness (at least on some things), respect, belief, loyalty, and a future.
It is sad, really. Sad, because love is so inflaming, so igniting, so passionate to the soul; love is a nuclear furnace, it burns white hot through the very soul of a person…yet, there has to be more. Love, in and of itself, is not enough.
Everybody needs somebody to stand up for them, to believe in them. Too many people go through life, not having that person. They settle. That’s sad. It is very, very sad when the person you are closest to, the person you love, the person you let in to your life in intimate ways, is not that person who respects you and believes in you and treats you like gold and believes in the best for you and puts you first in everything. For too many people, this is their reality, and I weep for them. But, saddest of all, is when there is no one person who believes in you.
For myself, most of those who do believe in me, end up being people who have taken the time to get to know me, to examine me. And most of them, in one way or another, recognize me for who I am and express to me how much I mean to them, only after they have walked away from me, never to return in true closeness. I believe it is possible that I scare people off, that my openness is actually a hindrance to real relationships, because to many people have settled in life and just do not know what to do with people who are open and honest and caring and compassionate and real.
I have a select few people in my life who believe in me, and I am thankful for that (and for them). But I am not so sure that I have ever had that belief, that offered acceptance of who I am, coming from a person who has also given me their heart and truly let me in to their world as well. That makes me sad. Because that is what I want. Okay, Lord?
I just want to love, and be loved. I want to accept, and be accepted. I know that nothing this side of heaven will ever fully satisfy those needs within me…but I also know that the needs that I feel, they were also put there by God, and so was the need for human companionship and love.
I just want to meet a special person, all of my own. And I want to love on her like there is no tomorrow. I want to make her the very center of my life (God excluded, obviously), and do my best to bring her blessings and happiness and every good opportunity that she deserves as a special child of God.
That’s all that I want; I just want it all. I want the fairy tale, and the reality. And I do not just want it; I expect it.
Because it is real. It is out there. I feel it in my heart, and in my soul. One day, maybe soon, that will happen for me, a beautiful gift from my Saviour to me.
It is sad, really. Sad, because love is so inflaming, so igniting, so passionate to the soul; love is a nuclear furnace, it burns white hot through the very soul of a person…yet, there has to be more. Love, in and of itself, is not enough.
Everybody needs somebody to stand up for them, to believe in them. Too many people go through life, not having that person. They settle. That’s sad. It is very, very sad when the person you are closest to, the person you love, the person you let in to your life in intimate ways, is not that person who respects you and believes in you and treats you like gold and believes in the best for you and puts you first in everything. For too many people, this is their reality, and I weep for them. But, saddest of all, is when there is no one person who believes in you.
For myself, most of those who do believe in me, end up being people who have taken the time to get to know me, to examine me. And most of them, in one way or another, recognize me for who I am and express to me how much I mean to them, only after they have walked away from me, never to return in true closeness. I believe it is possible that I scare people off, that my openness is actually a hindrance to real relationships, because to many people have settled in life and just do not know what to do with people who are open and honest and caring and compassionate and real.
I have a select few people in my life who believe in me, and I am thankful for that (and for them). But I am not so sure that I have ever had that belief, that offered acceptance of who I am, coming from a person who has also given me their heart and truly let me in to their world as well. That makes me sad. Because that is what I want. Okay, Lord?
I just want to love, and be loved. I want to accept, and be accepted. I know that nothing this side of heaven will ever fully satisfy those needs within me…but I also know that the needs that I feel, they were also put there by God, and so was the need for human companionship and love.
I just want to meet a special person, all of my own. And I want to love on her like there is no tomorrow. I want to make her the very center of my life (God excluded, obviously), and do my best to bring her blessings and happiness and every good opportunity that she deserves as a special child of God.
That’s all that I want; I just want it all. I want the fairy tale, and the reality. And I do not just want it; I expect it.
Because it is real. It is out there. I feel it in my heart, and in my soul. One day, maybe soon, that will happen for me, a beautiful gift from my Saviour to me.
Saturday, April 18, 2009
My Future Hope
I just finished watching the movie Paycheque starring Ben Affleck.
It was a decent movie; not great, but okay.
The movie had this quote that I really like –
“If you show someone their future, they have no future; if you take away the mystery, you take away hope.”
Isn’t that just like reality? Think about all of the people who get their palms read, their tea leaves looked at, and check out their horoscopes. They all want to know their future, and by doing so, they end up making themselves slaves to whatever they are told. What they are told is going to happen, they MAKE happen. They lose the ability to make their own choices, and instead make decisions BASED on what they are told their future will be!
Think about God; He never specifically tells us how our future is going to look, He leaves it a bit of a mystery for us. He tells us He will be with us, and that our future is a good one, but He allows us to anticipate our future instead of being controlled by it. Think about it this way – is Christmas morning most exciting when you know exactly what is under the tree for you, or when everything is a complete surprise?
Interesting, isn’t it?
Personally, I KNOW my future is going to be great. Do I know WHAT my future will look like? No, no I do not. And that makes it all the more exciting, doesn’t it? God is in the driver’s seat, I just ride on the bus and He drives. As long as I do not get off the bus and walk away from Him, I will arrive exactly where He wants me to be!
It was a decent movie; not great, but okay.
The movie had this quote that I really like –
“If you show someone their future, they have no future; if you take away the mystery, you take away hope.”
Isn’t that just like reality? Think about all of the people who get their palms read, their tea leaves looked at, and check out their horoscopes. They all want to know their future, and by doing so, they end up making themselves slaves to whatever they are told. What they are told is going to happen, they MAKE happen. They lose the ability to make their own choices, and instead make decisions BASED on what they are told their future will be!
Think about God; He never specifically tells us how our future is going to look, He leaves it a bit of a mystery for us. He tells us He will be with us, and that our future is a good one, but He allows us to anticipate our future instead of being controlled by it. Think about it this way – is Christmas morning most exciting when you know exactly what is under the tree for you, or when everything is a complete surprise?
Interesting, isn’t it?
Personally, I KNOW my future is going to be great. Do I know WHAT my future will look like? No, no I do not. And that makes it all the more exciting, doesn’t it? God is in the driver’s seat, I just ride on the bus and He drives. As long as I do not get off the bus and walk away from Him, I will arrive exactly where He wants me to be!
Oops
About my picks for the Olympic Men's hockey team in 2010...i forgot that Ryan Kesler is an American.
That being so, I name Jordan Staal of the Pittsburgh Penguins to take his spot!
Sorry Canuck fans!
That being so, I name Jordan Staal of the Pittsburgh Penguins to take his spot!
Sorry Canuck fans!
Testing Me
I took the Sports Test at http://www.cbc.ca/testthenation, and here is how i scored!
Click to enlarge.
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Olympics
So, here are my current picks for the 2010 Canadian Olympic Hockey Team.
A lot of good players got left off of my team. A lot of younger players, such as those who played in the 2008 World Championships, are on this team, as well as a few popular picks since the Olympics are in British Columbia.
Line Combinations:
1. Sidney Crosby, Ryan Getzlaf, Jarome Iginla
2. Rick Nash, Vincent Lecavalier, Martin St. Louis
3. Patrick Marleau, Eric Staal, Dany Heatley
4. Chris Kunitz, Joe Sakic, Ryan Kesler
Extra Forwards: Paul Kariya, Paul Gaustad
Defense Pairings:
1. Shea Weber, Scott Niedermayer
2. Robyn Regehr, Mike Green
3. Brent Burns, Dan Boyle
Extra Defencemen: Duncan Keith, Ed Jovanoski
Goaltenders:
1. Roberto Luongo
2. Marc-Andre Fleury
3. Steve Mason
A lot of good players got left off of my team. A lot of younger players, such as those who played in the 2008 World Championships, are on this team, as well as a few popular picks since the Olympics are in British Columbia.
Line Combinations:
1. Sidney Crosby, Ryan Getzlaf, Jarome Iginla
2. Rick Nash, Vincent Lecavalier, Martin St. Louis
3. Patrick Marleau, Eric Staal, Dany Heatley
4. Chris Kunitz, Joe Sakic, Ryan Kesler
Extra Forwards: Paul Kariya, Paul Gaustad
Defense Pairings:
1. Shea Weber, Scott Niedermayer
2. Robyn Regehr, Mike Green
3. Brent Burns, Dan Boyle
Extra Defencemen: Duncan Keith, Ed Jovanoski
Goaltenders:
1. Roberto Luongo
2. Marc-Andre Fleury
3. Steve Mason
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Irony of God
How ironic is it, that i am sitting at work, and sensing God's awesome presence, and I type these words: "Lord, let Your glory fall. Lord Jesus, let Your glory fall, fall in me. "
Then, a few hours later, on my way home, the song playing in my CD-player in my car is Consuming Fire, with the lyrics "Lord let Your glory fall, Lord let Your glory fall".
What God is doing in me, i do not deserve. I certainly did not do anything to cause God to look favourably upon me. Any call upon my life, any call upon my heart, is there because of what Jesus did. I am nothing but His bond-servant; I serve Him because I love Him, and I can only love Him because He first loved me.
Jesus, in all that I do, in all that I say, be glorified in and through me.
This is my year. The year full of irony. When everything is taken from me, all I have left is all that I really need; Jesus.
Then, a few hours later, on my way home, the song playing in my CD-player in my car is Consuming Fire, with the lyrics "Lord let Your glory fall, Lord let Your glory fall".
What God is doing in me, i do not deserve. I certainly did not do anything to cause God to look favourably upon me. Any call upon my life, any call upon my heart, is there because of what Jesus did. I am nothing but His bond-servant; I serve Him because I love Him, and I can only love Him because He first loved me.
Jesus, in all that I do, in all that I say, be glorified in and through me.
This is my year. The year full of irony. When everything is taken from me, all I have left is all that I really need; Jesus.
Take My Life
Tim Hughes - Consuming Fire
Verse 1:
There must be more than this
Oh Breath of God come breathe within
There must be more than this
Spirit of God we wait for You
Fill us anew we pray
Fill us anew we pray
Chorus:
Consuming Fire
Fan into flame
A passion for Your name
Spirit of God
Fall in this place
Lord have Your way
Lord have Your way
With us
Verse 2:
Come like a rushing wind
Fill us with power from on high
Now set the captives free
Leave us abandoned to Your praise
Lord let Your glory fall
Lord let Your glory fall
(repeat chorus)
Bridge:
Stir it up in our hearts, Lord
Stir it up in our hearts, Lord
Stir it up in our hearts,
A passion for Your name
(repeat bridge)
(repeat chorus)
Lord, I want to be a glory-seeker.
In all that I do, I want to bring glory to Your name.
Take me, make me, use me.
Monday, April 13, 2009
less iz more
I cannot say it any other way.
No other way of expressing it causes it to have more meaning, or gets the point across any better.
Sometimes, simplest is best. This is one of those times.
In my life, in my heart, nothing expresses the deep inner cry of my heart more than this;
Less of me, more of Jesus.
Lord, let Your glory fall. Lord Jesus, let Your glory fall, fall in me.
No other way of expressing it causes it to have more meaning, or gets the point across any better.
Sometimes, simplest is best. This is one of those times.
In my life, in my heart, nothing expresses the deep inner cry of my heart more than this;
Less of me, more of Jesus.
Lord, let Your glory fall. Lord Jesus, let Your glory fall, fall in me.
playoff fever
Putting my money (I don't have any!) where my mouth is (and what sort of a dumb saying is that, anyways?!), here are my first round predictions for the 2009 NHL playoffs;
Ducks over Sharks in 7
Bruins over Canadiens in 6
Blue Jackets over Red Wings in 7
Rangers over Capitals in 6
Canucks over Blues in 6
Devils over Hurricanes in 7
Blackhawks over Flames in 6
Penguins over Flyers in 6
Ducks over Sharks in 7
Bruins over Canadiens in 6
Blue Jackets over Red Wings in 7
Rangers over Capitals in 6
Canucks over Blues in 6
Devils over Hurricanes in 7
Blackhawks over Flames in 6
Penguins over Flyers in 6
Sunday, April 5, 2009
More Thoughts
Acceptance.
There is nothing more important to me in relationships, than acceptance.
I require acceptance. I crave acceptance. I need acceptance - without acceptance, there is only death.
All my relationships, in all of them, the one crucial question is; "do you accept me for who I am?"
If the answer is "no"...then i cannot be around you.
In my work, i work with somebody (she isn't really my boss, she just thinks she is) who accepts nobody. Everybody falls short fo what she wants them to be, so she berates everybody for failing to live up to her impossible standards. If God Himself stood before her, she probably would try to judge Him too and find Him lacking (but as a believer, i know that would never happen - the only thing to hit the floor before her forehead would be her knees).
I can't stand people like that. I do not hate them, i just cannot waste my time on them. People like that, resist change, resist God, resist life and reality. They suck the life out of everybody, if you let them.
My 2nd wife, she was like that. I have no hatred towards her, and i wish her well. But she had impossible inner standards that she judged everybody by. It killed me, it stole my joy. After five and a half years, it made it easy(er) to let her go and move on.
I need people who accept me. I need people who see me for who i am, and for who God says that i am, and who love me for being me.
That has to be something my next sweetie has. Okay, Lord?
I was listening to Tim Hughes' "When Silence Falls" on the way home from work a bit ago.
"I've had questions without answers, I've known sorrow and I have known pain...
But I will praise You, Jesus praise You..."
As I look back over the last year or so of my life, i am amazed at the amount of answerless questions I have had. Things that i realize, i will never get an answer to. In the end, i have had to just say, 'okay God, I get it - You do not have to give me the answers to my questions, as long as You give me You.'
Life is not about answers. Life is about Jesus.
So, when the tears fall, Jesus will be the song within my heart.
When the sorrow overcomes me, when the pain seems too much to bear, when the questions have no answer, the only answer is "But i will praise You, Jesus praise You..."
That is the only Answer that i need.
Thank You, Lord, for accepting me just as I am, and loving me enough to never quit working within me.
I will praise You.
There is nothing more important to me in relationships, than acceptance.
I require acceptance. I crave acceptance. I need acceptance - without acceptance, there is only death.
All my relationships, in all of them, the one crucial question is; "do you accept me for who I am?"
If the answer is "no"...then i cannot be around you.
In my work, i work with somebody (she isn't really my boss, she just thinks she is) who accepts nobody. Everybody falls short fo what she wants them to be, so she berates everybody for failing to live up to her impossible standards. If God Himself stood before her, she probably would try to judge Him too and find Him lacking (but as a believer, i know that would never happen - the only thing to hit the floor before her forehead would be her knees).
I can't stand people like that. I do not hate them, i just cannot waste my time on them. People like that, resist change, resist God, resist life and reality. They suck the life out of everybody, if you let them.
My 2nd wife, she was like that. I have no hatred towards her, and i wish her well. But she had impossible inner standards that she judged everybody by. It killed me, it stole my joy. After five and a half years, it made it easy(er) to let her go and move on.
I need people who accept me. I need people who see me for who i am, and for who God says that i am, and who love me for being me.
That has to be something my next sweetie has. Okay, Lord?
I was listening to Tim Hughes' "When Silence Falls" on the way home from work a bit ago.
"I've had questions without answers, I've known sorrow and I have known pain...
But I will praise You, Jesus praise You..."
As I look back over the last year or so of my life, i am amazed at the amount of answerless questions I have had. Things that i realize, i will never get an answer to. In the end, i have had to just say, 'okay God, I get it - You do not have to give me the answers to my questions, as long as You give me You.'
Life is not about answers. Life is about Jesus.
So, when the tears fall, Jesus will be the song within my heart.
When the sorrow overcomes me, when the pain seems too much to bear, when the questions have no answer, the only answer is "But i will praise You, Jesus praise You..."
That is the only Answer that i need.
Thank You, Lord, for accepting me just as I am, and loving me enough to never quit working within me.
I will praise You.
Friday, April 3, 2009
various
Various thoughts going through my head lately...
Just finished watching the movie Slap Shot. A timeless classic. They will never make a movie like that one again.
Enjoying my video-gaming lately. Been playing Neverwinter Nights for the last four or five days. Thoroughly enjoying it.
Thinking about what i want in a woman...
What i most want, is somebody who doesn't think they have it all together. People who think they have it all together, it is hard for them to change and adjust, because they do not ever think they have to. I want to be with somebody who knows they aren't perfect, who knows they have faults, but who loves life and who loves God. I want, most of all this is what i want, i want a woman who knows how much God loves her, who loves God back with all her heart and soul, and who wants to spend time with God.
God, give me that in a woman, and I can work with the rest.
Just finished watching the movie Slap Shot. A timeless classic. They will never make a movie like that one again.
Enjoying my video-gaming lately. Been playing Neverwinter Nights for the last four or five days. Thoroughly enjoying it.
Thinking about what i want in a woman...
What i most want, is somebody who doesn't think they have it all together. People who think they have it all together, it is hard for them to change and adjust, because they do not ever think they have to. I want to be with somebody who knows they aren't perfect, who knows they have faults, but who loves life and who loves God. I want, most of all this is what i want, i want a woman who knows how much God loves her, who loves God back with all her heart and soul, and who wants to spend time with God.
God, give me that in a woman, and I can work with the rest.
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