what.

The person who is unsaved, whether they be a spouse, a lover, a family member, a friend, a co-worker, or a neighbour, such a person can never be what we (we, the born-again) need them or want them to be.

They are totally and completely incapable, just as we too once were.

It is a hard lesson to learn. Many of us never learn it. Those who do learn, often learn through great pain and misery.

Fact is, God's Word is true. What can darkness have to do with light? What can the two have in common?

Really, nothing. Everything we have in common with an unsaved person, is temporary. It is based in a temporary life, one that is only a drop in the bucket of our eternity. The things we will have in common with these people, will mainly revolve around things that are fleeting, things that will pass away, temporary things, things designed to lead us AWAY from God and from our calling, things that distract us.

This is not to say that the unsaved are evil. They are merely without God, and as such they are incapable of filling any true void in our life.

Unless we let go of what we see in some of these people in our life, God is blocked from bringing into our life the people and things that He desires for us.

The people that are saved, but ignore God, at least they have the potential to change. To be something. To follow God, and His commandments, and His will for their life. The potential may stay untapped, but it is there. In the unsaved, the only hope they have is in salvation. Aside from that, they have nothing we need or desire. And if we could all figure that out in life, and remember it, we'd all be better off.